From closed up buds to blooming garden filled with fragrance that brings hope..flowers says it all..look good ..be alive even for a day or two but put the best of show ..you got one heart..one life..but so many dreams like flowers in garden of life. Spring may have ended, Autumn is coming..with golden leaves ..yet flowers adorn life with rich variety.
Each day..almost every time I do something wrong, a simple error from typo to mega mistakes that cost money, time and energy. I let it go..rarely I tell myself anything near scolding..sometimes…I even find causes , justifications for my actions.
If, someone else specially a sub-ordinate committed a similar mistake..will I forgive and let it pass ?
Can I remember that we all are human and err is but a part of nature. or..do I pin point, abuse verbally, make faces or gestures .. like shrugging shoulders..rotating head like a pedestal fan …even take up the role of national broadcaster..and ensure each and everyone know..what a HUGE error was done by someone else..who is just as human as me.
I feel ashamed.. how seldom I treated others with same leniency that I thought was my edge/right ;)..it is like if I steal something, it is my need and when another person commits theft it is all about greed.
I will forgive..I have decided seriously..all other persons before I forgive myself or ask for forgiveness..from those I have wronged starting from neighbors, family , friends to boss. I do cause much anxiety and financial loss.. is it part of growing up ? and becoming mature.. getting old is never proportionate to realizing our role in society..it is when life shows us a mirror..reflecting all our “bad” actions in stark nakedness..that we realize how ugly our actions, thoughts and words are/were..how deep they scar and demoralize another’s feelings.
I recall once, a colleague told me ,” I am upset..because boss scolded ..for coming late..becase he never comes on time.”
I waited all the time in life..for flowers were really a delight
Yet..no one brought nor bought any flowers for me
they said it was not easy !!
Roses were signs for love and lust
Dandelions were great..but cost too much 😉
Pansies were sweet..and colors so neat
they thought ,,it was best to leave them as treat
Daisies for me were never right
No one got me flowers..that is so right
I wanted to fight for flowers “Just for me”
No no..they said,”It is not advisable to kill reality to fulfill a fantasy”
Should you opt to remain single in status and live together to avoid divorce ?
Do you appreciate the values attached to marriage ?
Can you get married to someone you like?
Or you get married..for the sake of getting into a relationship…but this ship is already sinking . Is it not true ? People have few dreams in fame, power and beauty..all combined it seems the melting point is marriage. Well, at least to the Asian residing in subcontinent.
Girls parents main agenda is to get their daughter married ? Question arises why? For a better future ? Not always..but still they are in a rush to hand over their responsibility to another , even if it means you have to literally buy the groom ! Dowry and cash settled and delivered..but what if the amount fixed is beyond the reach of the parents. The young bride is tortured and burned to death. Is that really worth ? Was she not a daughter you cared for and loved, if her life was any worth..then why not let her live at least..why hook her up with death and torture.
Married women after 10 years even are still paying off to stay married..few times a sum of money is demanded if the parents wanted to get something..but why should you bear the load of another household to get your daughter married..is not only supporting her cheaper ? Then there is a common statement, it is our culture ..well get it redefined..it is not a culture that makes people behave as uncultured vultures.
Girls are human being..do not sell them and don’t buy them grooms, both are pathetic. Learn from other societies and appreciate the value of marriage and not weddings. Try to change this , if not action then at least with words, hoping someone would take action in a positive direction. Laws for anti dowry can only be implemented if it gets social support and recognition. All groom parents, please have self respect and do not plan to become permanent parasite on the bride and her family.. they are not family support program launched by the government authorities, they are just as ordinary people earning a reasonable wage..with a a daughter to wed 🙂
Weddings are happy occasions you never want to miss, more if the one getting married is your favorite niece:) Best part of the wedding , she already loves her groom before the marriage, that is very much reassuring and hopeful for the married life that would follow.
Along the Sandy beach of Phi Phi Island, a two hour leisure boat ride from Phuket Pier, Bangkok has much to offer.
The family arrived to attend the most memorable wedding :)). The nature was our host, of course our human host was the manager who runs the part of Phi phi Island that was classically decorated for the occasion.
The roof was huge, it was the sky and floor was soft sand mingling my feet to cheer, breeze was touching and making me smile, it was air and was conditioning my body to feel the natural temperature…oh..and sea was at our feet..how romantic can that be..very.
Our niece was dressed in green with gold and groom in off white ..both looked ..bold and beautiful ..Parents were smiling ear to ear as they walked the bride towards the waiting groom. The two love birds in their own words, expressed their love and commitment to try..yes that is important ..for we must acknowledge our shortcomings and then take one more step forward ..and promise to try and improve. You see, marriages are always made in heaven and we must never send it to hell.
Food was plenty, drinks were fresh and regular in supply, cushions were arranged with low wooden tables..perfect setting to relax and watch..the nature and people..pleased with the occasion. My husband got so relaxed..that he did manage a small nap. I woke him and asked to join me in counting the stars..we gazed away..as clouds floated by..the music was soft and entertaining..so everyone could easily have a conversation.
Pictures were taken, greetings exchanged, young people were jumping high to express their mood..and also for a good group photograph. The lighting of paper balloon was a new experience, each couple got one to light and let it go, it carried our good wishes away..making us look at the night sky adorned with twinkling stars..and each time I caught a glimpse of the newly wedded couple..they were perfectly relaxed and enjoying….this was their day..their moment of sharing happiness with those who cared ..The waves touched our toes and we realized it was time to go..
Thank you for inviting us all to your beautiful destination wedding..it was perfect and we are hopeful that you two would make your marriage a great success too :))
A barren life has little or no memories
full of despair and agonies
watch those eyes..dried up like dark wells
no feeling just puffy swells..no light or fire dwells
emptiness like branches spread out to search
birds, insects, butterflies or bees
no one come to sit on me…it’s lonely
no stars in sky..no moon to delight
no breeze that touch..no fragrance that fills
my soul like fire, my heart with desire
am alone and lonely…barren life has it’s shallowness
and endless miseries..
Life is expectations and acceptance. We, are always aspiring to become or achieve a goal, few times we pull or push those we associate with to join or jump for reaching targets and ultimately to a goal. Success, fame, health ,happiness or wealth, we got our little dream worlds right from the time we remember..yes 🙂 a very long time from that point in life, we now are looking back and ahead too.
Few things are unacceptable, these tend to create tensions and rebellious attitude, we fight for what we think as our right and we hurt others in this war game. We, win and we lose..leaving our hurdles behind we aim higher and want to proceed faster. Are we chasing time and passing life ? Are we not defeating hearts and winning applause from unknown admirers. Are we popular on social website and an introvert in life ?
Marriage is one huge step in our life, where we “accept” the other as being our partner in all aspects of life. We are sharing from address to bills, name and blame . We are stick on with an invisible glue , clearly opposite yet magnetically attracted to faults, weaknesses and humor. It feels there is someone within a reach to punch and kiss, hug and miss, tease or please , yet remain indeed your’s faithfully.
But, before we accept another human being into our life, we must accept our self too..to accept ..we must know ..what we are..and what needs to be improved or created ..so that other can find it easy to accept us. Perfection is always easy to accept, because we can relax and feel at ease, imperfection is rather challenging..moods sway..you burst and swear…or flare..too many indicators..loudness and your mind can not focus what to say 😉
Close your eyes and see your spouse face . Is it angry or happy ? tired or energetic ? Then open your eyes and look at yourself..can you see those emotions in your eyes ? We, the intelligent specie on earth has a mind that is never fully utilized, yet we always think we are smarter than the other..why? Partly, because we self indulge or are egoistic..or thick head.
Acceptance is a huge umbrella, it covers more than the vows can ever list. It is a submission of self. A commitment to be able to accept all that may come, good or bad.
When we accept this challenge , then life’s achievements would be fun while we are on it’s journey, each failure would be accepted as each win would be celebrated. Eyes will speak, hands will caution and lips will remain sealed.
The song he is humming, you know which one and the mischievous teasing punch you have aimed just over his nose ..he knows with his eyes closed 🙂
You have learned to accept and there is no more to expect ..than an honest acceptance.
You from air and I from sea
waves are currents, and motion is clean
I make you cold, as you make me cool
I need air to breathe,
You need water to drink
We are different..Thank God!
Otherwise..I will suffocate and you will die of thirst.
I accept you..Do you ?
We judge..each action and words included..and then we decide how to act or write in our response. We..react to actions like a bouncer. What if, we were insensitive to the issue and busy in giving a reply ?It will hurt or disturb the initiator of any action.
We, must care for other’s feelings other’s feel; for basically two reasons, first we as human being are responsible in sending hate and love emotions and secondly we are accountable for our actions.
The easy way to handle sensitive issues is, to be kind if you want to do justice in any situation , for when we try to be just..we sometime fail and do harm or get cruel.
People sometimes comment,”I was straight forward, but at least I was honest” that approach will not do, we must be honest sweetly..and effectively. To lie is a sin, but to hurt is also a sin..we must learn to speak truth ,sensibly sensitively sincerely.
That will make us silent in many situations. which is beneficial for sometime, this deafness makes action louder and we register it clearly.
Life is a balance, like a bicycle ride, keep on rolling , ride it ! for when you stop you will either fall or must put your foot down.
Today..I give you my hand ..with a vow to be your’s forever,
To love, to cherish, to hold and care, as long as we are together
We will always remember this day..as our most cherished dream.
I promise myself, to be your’s in all magical themes
I will be your shadow ..I will be your cold 🙂
I will sneak away when lights go off…and catch you in winter to hold
All the bad times we may experience, will not make us sad
We will make our life happier, each day with a better way !!
Will laugh together always, and cry sometimes too
It doesn’t matter if you break my head
just never break my heart without clues
I am with you from the start and will be there for you 🙂
Come hug me now, and kiss me deep..it is bed time..we must sleep