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I am not :)

I am not a teacher
I hardly teach or preach
I am just a listener
I am close ..if you want to reach

I see your hidden tears
I sense your fear too
I can not give you guarantee
Since lessons from past are few

All I can do,is genuinely smile at you

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The parts of the whole

The parts of the whole.

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Perfection is a need..indeed :)

dezeen_Stonescape-by-Kengo-Kuma_2 whether you  realize it or not, but perfection is the other name for survival, for beauty  and life. Composition, spatial arrangement , links and effects all must be in perfect harmony for any space to become a place. A doctor or a surgeon must prescribe perfectly and operate exactly or someone will die . You must wear, clothes or makeup ,hairdo fashion shoes perfectly matching your size or you can trip slip and fall. When we are cooking , we have to be perfect at all stages or waste the ingredients ..Politicians can not make any mistakes for a single approval or denial will lead to wars, famine and deaths.

Justice needs perfection,  and so does your family relationship..I used to think imperfection can be accepted , but when the documents displayed another department instead of the one I belong to..I didn’t accept the mistake..I wanted my certificate to be perfect.

Perfection in everything is needed, it does tire , take more time and effort , keep us vigilant and escape no short must be lived fully or it is wasted..So..from today..try to be perfect…in everything you do..It is not impossible just a bit difficult.

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From dust to dust




Carl warner

from dust to dust we must pass this dunes of time, but as we progress from childhood to youth..we wait for puberty and the time of being young adults..freckled face and unsure eyes..that watch and wait..this time does pass like it has wings to fly..although we want to live long and healthy ..yet we fear from within to be labelled as Old..I was told..the reason Adam got into trouble was..he couldn’t hold back his wish to remain young forever..he feared not to age..but to get old and is part of our our father, stay young and look younger..than we are 🙂

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Will you forgive..

Each day..almost every time I do something wrong, a simple error from typo to mega mistakes that cost money, time and energy. I let it go..rarely I tell myself anything near scolding..sometimes…I even find causes , justifications for my actions.
If, someone else specially a sub-ordinate committed a similar mistake..will I forgive and let it pass ?
Can I remember that we all are human and err is but a part of nature. I pin point, abuse verbally, make faces or gestures .. like shrugging shoulders..rotating head like a pedestal fan …even take up the role of national broadcaster..and ensure each and everyone know..what a HUGE error was done by someone else..who is just as human as me.
I feel ashamed.. how seldom I treated others with same leniency that I thought was my edge/right ;) is like if I steal something, it is my need and when another person commits theft it is all about greed.
I will forgive..I have decided seriously..all other persons before I forgive myself or ask for forgiveness..from those I have wronged starting from neighbors, family , friends to boss. I do cause much anxiety and financial loss.. is it part of growing up ? and becoming mature.. getting old is never proportionate to realizing our role in is when life shows us a mirror..reflecting all our “bad” actions in stark nakedness..that we realize how ugly our actions, thoughts and words are/ deep they scar and demoralize another’s feelings.
I recall once, a colleague told me ,” I am upset..because boss scolded ..for coming late..becase he never comes on time.”

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Attitude or aptitude

Human relationships have two main focus points. It is your attitude or aptitude, when we meet anyone, through their work or in person. Their aptitude is the main reason for interaction, then comes attitude issues.
Positive or or destructive , our evaluation is continuous..not because we are being judgmental in terms of labeling .. rather we are trying to find links ..or connections that are intangible yet important. Some refer to it as similar frequency , the indication of having equal amount of interest ..when we feel differently about a similar issue it is welcomed as a fresh angle, but when we fail to understand the subject , that is unacceptable. Because , we fail due to our low level of intelligence and poor concentration on the topic.
Many times as I read women magazines, there is always a column where they would focus on “what interest men” , as I skim ( no I am not trying to learn that 😉 it reveals, the subject shows how important it is to be focused, be subjective and Honest.

SO, honesty is a ” key ingredient” for any relationship to make or break. When we are dishonest, we tend to lie by nodding our head indicating that we do understand but actually ..the whole thing went over our head..that is one of the reason, I write a comment on blog sort of vents out my understanding and gives the blogger a turn to correct me or add to my knowledge..and whenever someone post an incredible writing or photograph..the only way I can keep it by resonates the idea/feeling/message posted originally.

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Which one is uglier

People are connected and divided by emotions, feelings and attachments. What hurts us more? biased opinions or favoring high ups ? We, the normal people who are destined to succeed with hurdles in our way .
Sometimes it is racism, others it is religious beliefs and more than often economic status that we achieved or inherited .
Each day , we wake up to remain alive and at night we are happy that we survived, the battle of words, the scheming of plots and cornering of courage..we are looked down , as if this status was created by us.
We..are trying not to be pulled down by those who discriminate and am fighting to resists that push from those who despise us due to their “biased opinions”.
What hurts us most is, when our family starts to think like the others who have judged us with in-just.
It is ugly to be hated by others and uglier to be let down by those who are important and close to our heart.
Give us a chance, be patient and content..we are alive and have a live and be free…or soon we will become intolerant and rebellious tear down all the values that are blocking our become those whom you admire…But that what we want ?…
no…never..we want to be ordinary people..we got our self respect and that is our pride and matter how you smear and jeer at us..we are who we are the majority ..we the people

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Which one is easier ?

Should you opt to remain single in status and live together to avoid divorce ?

Do you appreciate the values attached to marriage ?

Can you get married to someone you like?

Or you get married..for the sake of getting into a relationship…but this ship is already sinking . Is it not true ? People have few dreams in fame, power and beauty..all combined it seems the melting point is marriage. Well, at least to the Asian residing in subcontinent. 

Girls parents main agenda is to get their daughter married ? Question arises why? For a better future ? Not always..but still they are in a rush to hand over their responsibility to another , even if it means you have to literally buy the groom ! Dowry and cash settled and delivered..but what if the amount fixed is beyond the reach of the parents. The young bride is tortured and burned to  death. Is that really worth ? Was she not a daughter you cared for and loved, if her life was any worth..then why not let her live at least..why hook her up with death and torture.

Married women after 10 years even are still paying off to stay married..few times a  sum of money is demanded  if the parents wanted to get something..but why should you bear the load of another household to get your daughter not only supporting her cheaper ? Then there is a common statement, it is our culture ..well get it is not a culture that makes people behave as uncultured  vultures.

Girls are human not sell them and don’t buy them grooms, both are pathetic. Learn from other societies and appreciate the value of marriage and not weddings. Try to change this , if not action then at least with words, hoping someone would take action in a positive direction. Laws for anti dowry can only be implemented if it gets social support and recognition. All groom parents, please have self respect and do not plan to become permanent parasite on the bride and her family.. they are not family support program launched by the government authorities, they are just as ordinary people earning a reasonable wage..with a a daughter to wed 🙂 

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Healthy food ..must heal

We , the people of Bangladesh who wants to live and eat healthy are finding it next to impossible in consuming “healthy” food. Genetics improved and fertilizers protected the production, but to what extend must we add, will it be wrong to say..that today we consume formalin in fish, dyes in coloring , lead, water ..Chicken has been fed to get fat and look healthy..what is happening ?
STOP .. and THINK .. Yes..we are all trying to appear healthy and not be healthy . Reality vs illusion, and guess what illusion wins..the fake master grins and earns loads of cash..and makes us spend fortune in recovery from consuming , adulterated food..which is actually poison .

I can not eat any fruit, vegetable, pulses, oil and tea , to name a few items that find its place on my dinner table. I do understand that production of food is a challenge with population explosion ,but here less is more theme works better 🙂 I am sure.
I was happily planning to eat cucumber with it’s skin , when someone almost screamed..remove the skin or all the pesticides would land up into your system..and it may think that you are a pest..inside..and need to be eliminated.
Well, good old days were really “good” and we just heard about it..those who lived in that era are gone and happy.

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Destination Wedding :)


Weddings are happy occasions you never want to miss, more if the one getting married is your favorite niece:) Best part of the wedding  , she already loves her groom before the marriage, that is very much reassuring and hopeful for the married life that would follow.

Along the Sandy beach of Phi Phi Island, a two hour leisure boat ride from Phuket Pier, Bangkok has much to offer.

The family arrived to attend the most memorable wedding :)). The nature was our host, of course our human host was the manager who runs the part of Phi phi Island that was classically decorated for the occasion.

The roof was huge, it was the sky and floor was soft sand mingling my feet to cheer, breeze was touching and making me smile, it was air and was conditioning my body to feel the natural temperature…oh..and sea was at our romantic can that be..very.

Our niece was dressed in green with gold and groom in off white ..both looked ..bold and beautiful ..Parents were smiling ear to ear as they walked the bride towards the waiting groom. The two love birds in their own words, expressed their love and commitment to try..yes that is important ..for we must acknowledge our shortcomings and then take one more step forward ..and promise to try and improve. You see, marriages are always made in heaven and we must never send it to hell.

Food was plenty, drinks were fresh and regular in supply, cushions were  arranged with low wooden tables..perfect setting to relax and watch..the nature and people..pleased with the occasion. My husband got so relaxed..that he did manage a small nap. I woke him and asked to join me in counting the stars..we gazed clouds floated by..the music was soft and everyone could easily have a conversation.

Pictures were taken, greetings exchanged, young people were jumping high to express their mood..and also for a good group photograph. The lighting of paper balloon was a new experience, each couple got one to light and let it go, it carried our good wishes away..making us look at the night sky adorned with twinkling stars..and each time I caught a glimpse of the newly wedded couple..they were perfectly relaxed and enjoying….this was their day..their moment  of sharing happiness with those who cared ..The waves touched our toes and we realized it was time to go..

Thank you for inviting us all to your beautiful destination was perfect and we are hopeful that you two would make your marriage a great success too :))