If we let our children get away with wrong doings ,simply by ignoring the act or covering it up, without a flinch are we protecting them or pushing them towards destruction?
There is always a punishment/control for a mistake/crime , and it starts with a mistake , unintentional in the beginning and later intentional. A child lies and plays, thinking that it is right.. if in a joking way, parents ignore and don’t tell them how it will later develop into a bad habit. The child repeats and slowly finds out , that a lie can protect him from many odd situations , his habit of lying develops..now he cheats..then he plans a fraud and finally embezzles . Lands up in jail or kills someone in real.
His value system becomes weak , and reduced to tatters because his sense of recognizing a sin is not actually making him stop. Why we learn and where we learn, has no excuse for continuing to practice wrong notions, even though we acknowledge that our values are immoral. We further indulge in self deception, by telling our inner voice ,”others are liars too “, I lie only when I get into a tight spot. Convenient ! isn’t it ?
Suppose there is a fire burning and engulfing the area, would we run or stay as others get burned and charred..we run 🙂 we escape that pain and possible death..we are trying to protect our life. Then why not protect our soul ?
Protecting ourselves and our children must include learning and teaching good moral values ,it doesn’t matter if 90% of population where we reside have wrong thinking , remember only that darkness is everywhere but light source even if limited can enlighten everyone anywhere..
Death awaits us..bloody or calm
In rough sea or beach side under palms
untimely ..if we are young
tragically when killed by guns
I understand that we must die one day
Dying is never easy..
but getting brutally slaughtered..no way !
I am not a teacher
I hardly teach or preach
I am just a listener
I am close ..if you want to reach
I see your hidden tears
I sense your fear too
I can not give you guarantee
Since lessons from past are few
All I can do,is genuinely smile at you
whether you realize it or not, but perfection is the other name for survival, for beauty and life. Composition, spatial arrangement , links and effects all must be in perfect harmony for any space to become a place. A doctor or a surgeon must prescribe perfectly and operate exactly or someone will die . You must wear, clothes or makeup ,hairdo fashion shoes perfectly matching your size or you can trip slip and fall. When we are cooking , we have to be perfect at all stages or waste the ingredients ..Politicians can not make any mistakes for a single approval or denial will lead to wars, famine and deaths.
Justice needs perfection, and so does your family relationship..I used to think imperfection can be accepted , but when the documents displayed another department instead of the one I belong to..I didn’t accept the mistake..I wanted my certificate to be perfect.
Perfection in everything is needed, it does tire , take more time and effort , keep us vigilant and tidy..no escape no short cuts..life must be lived fully or it is wasted..So..from today..try to be perfect…in everything you do..It is not impossible just a bit difficult.
from dust to dust we must pass this dunes of time, but as we progress from childhood to youth..we wait for puberty and the time of being young adults..freckled face and unsure eyes..that watch and wait..this time does pass like it has wings to fly..although we want to live long and healthy ..yet we fear from within to be labelled as Old..I was told..the reason Adam got into trouble was..he couldn’t hold back his wish to remain young forever..he feared not to age..but to get old and weary..it is part of our nature..like our father, Adam..to stay young and look younger..than we are 🙂
Each day..almost every time I do something wrong, a simple error from typo to mega mistakes that cost money, time and energy. I let it go..rarely I tell myself anything near scolding..sometimes…I even find causes , justifications for my actions.
If, someone else specially a sub-ordinate committed a similar mistake..will I forgive and let it pass ?
Can I remember that we all are human and err is but a part of nature. or..do I pin point, abuse verbally, make faces or gestures .. like shrugging shoulders..rotating head like a pedestal fan …even take up the role of national broadcaster..and ensure each and everyone know..what a HUGE error was done by someone else..who is just as human as me.
I feel ashamed.. how seldom I treated others with same leniency that I thought was my edge/right ;)..it is like if I steal something, it is my need and when another person commits theft it is all about greed.
I will forgive..I have decided seriously..all other persons before I forgive myself or ask for forgiveness..from those I have wronged starting from neighbors, family , friends to boss. I do cause much anxiety and financial loss.. is it part of growing up ? and becoming mature.. getting old is never proportionate to realizing our role in society..it is when life shows us a mirror..reflecting all our “bad” actions in stark nakedness..that we realize how ugly our actions, thoughts and words are/were..how deep they scar and demoralize another’s feelings.
I recall once, a colleague told me ,” I am upset..because boss scolded ..for coming late..becase he never comes on time.”