The main issue about pleasing is raised ..making people aware that you as an individual is incapable of pleasing everyone. True 100% in reality. Having said that, let us not altogether start irritating everyone 😉
I think, we all belong to a certain community , enjoy a social set up relate to a way of life and for getting rooted , you have to follow certain customs and rules. Being born into a family is not by choice, but you can opt a way out. Get into another group.or belief..each is going to have rules. Question is..why do we need rules.to make life simple..rules requires people to behave, and that helps others to be in peace. So, rules are made to ensure a peaceful living. Some rules are biased, for example the tenant can not use the lift if the generator has to run, but the apartment owners can do that..those are rules that divides a society and is actually bringing chaos into a social setup. We should not accept it, but you can not fight it..for they have made it and you were asked to sign an undertaking that you will follow all the rules levied on you , if you desire to reside in their apartment block. You can change your residence or save up and buy your own independent house..and say goodbye to apartment living.or, form a group raise your voice against this discrimination , get your article published and join hands with other tenants suffering due to rules that make you pay but not let you use as a resident..form a group and get it approved by the government..
Simply, it means you can choose whom to please..and leave those who can not please you. Imagine, all like minded people would leave old group/school of thoughts and form new groups/social circle.
Human beings need a social setup, for sharing sorrows and happiness, maybe it takes some effort, but it also gives you a boost. Your focus , should be to do the right thing as per your own acquired knowledge and experience,basic behavior must be good. That includes, to be polite, humble , sincere and loving with a sound sense of right from wrong, in respect of the group you belong to whether it is religious, friends circle, cause groups etc.
Pleasing is not bad..you can sing a song and please many..what is bad is..you please at the cost of sacrificing a goodness..you lie to please..that is actually destroying the entire system…So please do not refrain from pleasing others..just remember whom you please and how you do that without breaking or bending rules ( good ones) .
Live honestly, speak sweetly ,work diligently..eat healthy and love passionately.