Will you forgive..

Each day..almost every time I do something wrong, a simple error from typo to mega mistakes that cost money, time and energy. I let it go..rarely I tell myself anything near scolding..sometimes…I even find causes , justifications for my actions.
If, someone else specially a sub-ordinate committed a similar mistake..will I forgive and let it pass ?
Can I remember that we all are human and err is but a part of nature. or..do I pin point, abuse verbally, make faces or gestures .. like shrugging shoulders..rotating head like a pedestal fan …even take up the role of national broadcaster..and ensure each and everyone know..what a HUGE error was done by someone else..who is just as human as me.
I feel ashamed.. how seldom I treated others with same leniency that I thought was my edge/right ;)..it is like if I steal something, it is my need and when another person commits theft it is all about greed.
I will forgive..I have decided seriously..all other persons before I forgive myself or ask for forgiveness..from those I have wronged starting from neighbors, family , friends to boss. I do cause much anxiety and financial loss.. is it part of growing up ? and becoming mature.. getting old is never proportionate to realizing our role in society..it is when life shows us a mirror..reflecting all our “bad” actions in stark nakedness..that we realize how ugly our actions, thoughts and words are/were..how deep they scar and demoralize another’s feelings.
I recall once, a colleague told me ,” I am upset..because boss scolded ..for coming late..becase he never comes on time.”

Which one is easier ?

Should you opt to remain single in status and live together to avoid divorce ?

Do you appreciate the values attached to marriage ?

Can you get married to someone you like?

Or you get married..for the sake of getting into a relationship…but this ship is already sinking . Is it not true ? People have few dreams in fame, power and beauty..all combined it seems the melting point is marriage. Well, at least to the Asian residing in subcontinent. 

Girls parents main agenda is to get their daughter married ? Question arises why? For a better future ? Not always..but still they are in a rush to hand over their responsibility to another , even if it means you have to literally buy the groom ! Dowry and cash settled and delivered..but what if the amount fixed is beyond the reach of the parents. The young bride is tortured and burned to  death. Is that really worth ? Was she not a daughter you cared for and loved, if her life was any worth..then why not let her live at least..why hook her up with death and torture.

Married women after 10 years even are still paying off to stay married..few times a  sum of money is demanded  if the parents wanted to get something..but why should you bear the load of another household to get your daughter married..is not only supporting her cheaper ? Then there is a common statement, it is our culture ..well get it redefined..it is not a culture that makes people behave as uncultured  vultures.

Girls are human being..do not sell them and don’t buy them grooms, both are pathetic. Learn from other societies and appreciate the value of marriage and not weddings. Try to change this , if not action then at least with words, hoping someone would take action in a positive direction. Laws for anti dowry can only be implemented if it gets social support and recognition. All groom parents, please have self respect and do not plan to become permanent parasite on the bride and her family.. they are not family support program launched by the government authorities, they are just as ordinary people earning a reasonable wage..with a a daughter to wed 🙂 

The golden rule

Long time back, there was a farm land owned by few families. Each year they had bumper crop, slowly they became rich and richer. They also became proud of their work and harvest, slowly they turned into rude and mean people.

These farmers would boast of their annual prodcution and tell the entire village of how hard they worked and they always were able to get their crop, that made high profits. Amongst themselves, they decided to avoid their poor neighbours and distant relatives, who may come on the day they went to get their harvest. 

In their heart and mind , the weeds of selfishness and self praise has made them blind to the fact, that in their richness there is always a share for those who have lesser than them.

That morning when they went laughing at other’s inefficiency and low capacity, a strong wind passed..burning their ear lobes and once it went over their fram land, it razed everything to waste land. 

Once they reached their spot, they thought they had lost their way, and started asking each other if they have to walk further or take a different turning. But, no it was their very own farm land, but a strong wind has taken away thier fortune in a few minutes, leaving them a barren waste land. 

Feeling lost, they had tears in their eyes one of them then said,” perhaps, we needed to learn this important lessson, that result can be targetted and achieved, but bad intentions and back biting can actually harm , our work input.”